Trevor Hayley

Funeral and Memorial Celebrant

A Caring Presence for you and your family.

Servicing Greater Adelaide and Regional South Australia

Blog

Suddenly they’re not there……

Oct 17, 2019

No more beach walks, no more going out together, no more sharing a bottle of wine. Once the person was there, and now they are not; forever. How do you support someone through the ‘no mores.’

Funerals and memorials – the words we use

Oct 10, 2019

Why do we use the word wake? It seems quite a strange word to use given the circumstances. The funeral industry, like other industries, has a language all of its own.

Should we bring the children to the Funeral?

Oct 3, 2019

Should we take children to funerals? I did no get to go to Grandpa’s, and although I have fond memories, I still wonder the wisdom of my parents in the 1970s.

I just need a bit of normal!

Sep 26, 2019

Yes carers need compassion, empathy and listening. But they also need some normal! It will keep them sane through the tragedy.

Memorialising a loved one

Sep 18, 2019

How do we memoralise someone who has died? Burial plot, mausoleums, ashes? Is there a further way to memorialise, and leave a positive legacy?

It happened without warning!

Sep 10, 2019

When death happens without warning, the shock and disbelief are unbearable.

I feel so guilty – I did not treat them so well

Sep 5, 2019

“They have died. I did not treat them so well. And the guilt is unbearable. What am I going to do?”

The Bits and Pieces of Estates – Dad’s Journey

Aug 29, 2019

The final little pieces with a deceased estate. The trick is to let people know who need to know. They are often very helpful.

The ‘Infrastructure’ of Estates – Dad’s Journey

Aug 23, 2019

Setting the right ‘infrastructure’ for deceased estate can make smooth management for the executors. Matters such as communication, banking, taxation, probate and distributions all need to be considered from the start.