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Silence coming to an end

Is there anybody out there? #35

This blog continues on the series ‘Is there anybody out there?” Feel free to read the previous chapters here

You have been neighbours for twenty years. You noticed something was up, and you had plucked up the courage to go and visit your neighbour Molly. The conversation with Daughter, Jessica had gone really well, and it felt like that was the final hurdle. It was time to look to the future.

You were down at your usual cafe spot. 

‘Were you happy with the conversation with Jessica?’

‘Oh my goodness, I was a bit frozen there for a while. Thank you for what you said. It really helped, and it seems like Jessica will be OK.’

‘Maybe the lonely comment was the clincher. Jessica wanted your happiness as well.’

As you looked over the water you added, ‘we have never had a bad morning down here. The weather has always been good. Kind a meant to be thing.’

Molly smiled, ‘yes it has not been a distraction.’

She continued, ‘I told Patrick about our time with Jessica and he was really happy.’

‘Is there much from his family?’

‘As it turns out,’ as Molly sipped her coffee, ‘Patrick too has a daughter, just slightly younger than Jessica, and she just happened to call him.’

‘Wow just like that. Out of the blue!’

‘Yes she wanted to catch up with him, which I think is today. I am hoping for an invitation to meet her.’

‘That would be nice.’

‘Oh, I meant to tell you, that Patrick and I are going for an appointment soon, to talk through some stuff. I am sure some more information will come out then.’

‘That sounds great.’

‘Yes, we will probably ask the best way to meet the children. Try to understand from their perspective.’

You both sat in silence, as you tried to process the conversation up until now. There was something else on your mind, that you eventually plucked up the courage to ask, 

‘Molly, I do have a question, I hope you don’t mind me asking.’

Molly looked at you with a slightly stunned look, but then nodded.

‘Here goes,’ you start, ‘for my way of thinking one of the trickiest parts of a new love is the intimate part.’

Molly shuffled in here seat, ‘gee straight to the point, but I trust where this is going.

‘How…how… does it feel kissing him?’

‘Well if you must know,’ said Molly, ‘it felt weird at first, but then I remembered how much I had missed it, and kind of just went with it. My husband was my first kiss, there has never been anyone else. But there is nothing like a first kiss.’

You smiled at Molly, as you saw a faint smile came to her face, ‘so yes it feels ok. Kind of nice in fact. But I think I said before, I won’t be going and further until we get married. I am traditional like that and it is kind of nice to wait.’

‘Yes, that has been one of my regrets,’ you add, ‘I gave away my innocence too soon. I did not get a chance to look forward to it. It kind of just happened.’

Molly looked at you, ‘but I suppose, thanks to you Molly, it is kind of new.’

‘Yes as we found, it can be new and exciting.’

‘So what happens now, Molly?’

‘Well we have already started talking about our future. The words we and us are definitely in the conversation now. I suppose we will have those appointments, meet the daughters and see what happens after that.’

She added, ‘the future looks bright.’

This commentary in this blog is intended to be general in nature. It is just some observations from one fellow traveller in life to another. If anything in this blog raises issues for you, please call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or consult with a trusted medical professional.

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Trevor Hayley
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