Grief and how to help - Trevor Hayley

Carers be kind to yourselves

Trevor — Thu, 21 Nov 2019 04:38:32 +0000

When caring, perhaps with a terminally ill loved one, it may be better to ask for help, because is too much to handle on you own.

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Suddenly they’re not there……

Trevor — Thu, 17 Oct 2019 04:29:54 +0000

No more beach walks, no more going out together, no more sharing a bottle of wine. Once the person was there, and now they are not; forever. How do you support someone through the 'no mores.'

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Supporting Grief – ‘If there is anything I can do…….’

Trevor — Mon, 25 Mar 2019 06:17:10 +0000

When supporting grief, people will probably not respond to 'is there anything I can do' but will probably be appreciative of the shopping being done.

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Supporting Grief – There will be those days

Trevor — Sun, 17 Mar 2019 11:47:05 +0000

For those in grief, there will be days and moments; birthdays, Christmas, anniversaries and events that will be triggers for sadness. Memories conjure up all manner of feelings........

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Supporting Grief – Trauma and the Emotional Brain

Trevor — Wed, 13 Mar 2019 02:01:42 +0000

When in trama, maybe in grief, our ability to reason and to think are compromised. We may need a friend to keep us safe.

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Supporting Grief – you may have heard it before

Trevor — Sun, 03 Mar 2019 11:21:17 +0000

Supporting grief may involve being attentive to the same fears, emotions, stories and regrets over and over again. That is quite OK, as it is all part of being able to reconcile the past, with a new reality which is the present, to remember, and to be able to say goodbye.

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Supporting grief will require patience

Trevor — Sun, 24 Feb 2019 06:21:07 +0000

It is a privilege to share in someone's grief journey. You are going into their 'inner world' and it will require patience.

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Sometimes it is OK to be Silent

Trevor — Sun, 17 Feb 2019 09:44:10 +0000

In our desperation to try and fill in the gap with some words, sometimes silence is the best answer. Not a silence that is uncomfortable, but a silence that might even say "I am not quite sure of the words right now, but is it OK for me just to sit with you."

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GRIEF – Some thoughts about what is NOT helpful

Trevor — Sun, 10 Feb 2019 06:30:31 +0000

Death is an awkward reality. When we are wanting to support someone in grief, there is some unhelpful things, often our words that can be unhelpful.

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